Earlier than getting her nostril pierced, Jill Duggar referred to as her dad and mom, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, to tell them of her choice. In her memoir, Counting the Value, Jill revealed that she initially obtained their voicemail and left a message. Her mother, Michelle, did choose up at one level however “didn’t have a lot to say” relating to the nostril piercing.
Jim Bob definitely had lots to say. When Jill obtained again from getting her nostril pierced, she had a message ready for her. “He pleaded with me to not do it. He instructed me I used to be making an enormous mistake. He begged me to consider the way it was going to have an effect on my little sisters. He mentioned I used to be ruining my life,” Jill wrote.
Jill was understandably upset over what her father had mentioned to her. She spoke together with her mom concerning the message. Michelle mentioned Jim Bob “wasn’t in a very good way of thinking” when he left the message. Days later, Jim Bob wished to have a name with Jill and Michelle. Jill refused and despatched him a textual content as an alternative.
“Actually, I don’t actually really feel like speaking once I really feel like there is likely to be an opportunity I’m simply going to be verbally abused, manipulated, and emotionally harm. It makes me wish to draw back from any sort of dialog,” Jill’s textual content started. She acknowledged that their “variations” could be onerous, however she wished to be “thoughtful.”
Jill hoped that her father would apologize for his response, however that didn’t occur. “He hated that hunk of steel in my nostril,” Jill continued. “He despised how I used to be dressing in ways in which put sexual ideas in guys’ minds. As an alternative of his Candy Jilly Muffin, I used to be now a menace to the remainder of his kids, and a menace to his authority.”
Jill and her husband, Derick Dillard, later used a mediator to speak with Jim Bob and Michelle. Jill and Derick wished to speak about cash they felt they have been owed — however had by no means acquired — from 19 Children & Counting and the spinoff, however their dialog was solely centered on Jill’s letter.
Jim Bob instructed Jill that her textual content was the “most disrespectful factor” he had ever learn. He added, “You despatched me a textual content message, Jill. You mentioned I used to be verbally abusing you. I used to be so offended by that, too. You understand in your coronary heart that’s not proper.” Jim Bob wished Jill to apologize, however she didn’t. Jim Bob accused Jill of getting a “responsible” conscience, and that’s when she snapped.
“You wish to know why I’m crying? It’s that you simply assume I’m some sort of horrible individual simply because I put on pants and have a nostril ring,” Jill instructed her father. “You deal with me like I’m a prodigal who’s turned her again on you. You deal with me worse than you deal with my pedophile brother [Josh Duggar].”
Jill additionally mentioned the response she acquired from Jim Bob over sporting pants. Jim Bob and Michelle solely allowed their daughters to put on lengthy skirts and attire rising up. Regardless of being 26 years outdated and married, Jim Bob referred to as out Jill for not discussing her choice to put on pants with him and Michelle. “I cried once I obtained house. I felt embarrassed, humiliated, although no person else had been within the room with us,” Jill admitted. Counting The Value: A Memoir, written by Jill, Derick, and Craig Brolase, is obtainable now.