I turned 39 a pair months in the past, and I’ll admit—my birthday hit otherwise this 12 months. Not in an “I’m so afraid of turning 40” type of manner. Fortunately, I’ve sufficient stunning, horny, wonderful buddies of their 40s to get me enthusiastic about this subsequent decade. It was extra of a realization that I solely have one 12 months left to benefit from my 30s.
The final 9 years have been so full. We grew our household, my enterprise has grown exponentially, and so lots of the issues I dreamed about in my 20s have turn out to be actual. Nevertheless it’s flown by, and this birthday made me sit up and take into account if there’s something that I need to do earlier than I say goodbye to this decade.
One of many nice issues about running a blog is that your weblog turns into a form of private scrapbook, capturing totally different moments of your life. As I thought of all this, I remembered that again after I turned 30, I wrote a weblog publish referred to as “10 Issues I Need to Do In My 30s.” It made me inquisitive about which of them I’d achieved and which of them have been nonetheless on my listing. And did I truly nonetheless need to do all of them? So, right now I’m revisiting that publish with you guys. Watch the video beneath as I stroll you thru what I actually need to do throughout this ultimate 12 months of my 30s. Spoiler: it’s going to be a really full 11 months.
Right here’s a recap of the targets on my authentic 30s Bucket Checklist, in addition to some new ones I’m prioritizing this 12 months:
I’ve surfed a number of instances in my 30s! I’m positively not good at it, however I’ve gone out in Costa Rica and in Malibu, and it’s one thing I need to do extra of sooner or later. An enormous a part of why I wished to surf was my love for the ocean and surf tradition. (That is actually what impressed us to purchase our property in Malibu in 2020.) It’s been so unimaginable to have a spot to go the place we will spend extra time by the water and be immersed within the laid-back surf group there, so that is positively a purpose that’s in movement in my life.
Grasp Bread Baking
You guys know the way a lot I like to bake, however I nonetheless haven’t actually devoted myself to baking my very own bread. And I feel I’m okay with that. I’ve realized that for me, baking bread actually symbolizes an act of slowing down and embracing life’s easy pleasures. However I’ll be trustworthy—I get simply as a lot pleasure out of going to the farmer’s market and shopping for a very good loaf of sourdough.
Journey to Japan
That is actually humorous as a result of I fully forgot this was on my listing—however I’ve truly began planning a visit to Japan for this fall! For me, it is a reminder that whenever you write down your targets, you’re setting them in movement even with out realizing it. I can’t wait to expertise the tradition and the meals in Japan, and I’m going to be performing some sourcing for Japanese artisans and makers for Casa Zuma.
Be taught to Sit Up Straight
It feels actually random that I wrote this one, however I do assume that my posture has improved a LOT, and I truly get feedback on my nice posture fairly often. Right here’s a visualization that has actually helped me: Image a string operating by means of your middle, right through the highest of your head after which pulling you UP towards the sky. It really works, proper?
Embrace the Weekend
This one is actually about not working across the clock—which may be onerous whenever you personal your individual enterprise. I’ve been engaged on being totally current with my household and buddies after I’m not working. However I’ve additionally discovered that it is a steadiness that’s all the time altering. There are seasons the place I’m extra centered on work, and I discover a lot pleasure in creating and rising my enterprise. After which there are seasons the place I can let up a little bit and unplug extra typically. I don’t assume it is a purpose that I’ll ever examine off my listing, however I’m all the time working to seek out that steadiness and being intentional about creating house to unplug, decelerate, and simply be current.
Stay in Europe for at Least 6 Months
I’d nonetheless like to do that—however it’s not going to occur earlier than I flip 40. And that’s okay. What I want to do is spend a number of weeks in Europe subsequent summer time exploring a brand new place with our household. Possibly that’s how I’ll have fun my fortieth?
That is one which I’d forgotten about, however it positively nonetheless resonates. One thing I’ve been enthusiastic about these days is incorporating extra of a bedtime ritual that helps me mirror on the day as an alternative of simply watching a present till I go to sleep. I’ve began maintaining a ebook of poetry by my mattress, studying one poem an evening, after which taking 5 minutes to jot down any ideas from the day that I need to keep in mind.
Personal Solely Beautiful Lingerie
TMI alert: ever since Covid, I don’t truly put on lingerie in any respect. Possibly a bralette if it’s completely obligatory, however that’s it. So this one’s a moot level.
Be taught to Do a Headstand
This looks like a lot of effort proper now, and I feel I’m completely okay with letting it go.
Okay, in order that was my outdated listing… on to my new targets! Once I sat down and thought of what I would like this 12 months to appear to be, I noticed it was much less about DOING and extra about BEING. Which displays the ways in which I’ve personally developed since I wrote that first publish 9 years in the past. I need to be so intentional with my time and who I’m changing into as I enter this subsequent decade of my life, and these milestone birthdays could be a good time to zoom out and see if the way in which we’re spending our time is aligned with our values.
So, right here’s what acquired added to my listing:
Create Area in My Schedule for the Tasks I’m Passionate About
Launching Casa Zuma on the finish of final 12 months opened up such an thrilling new facet of my profession, and I found that I’m actually obsessed with this a part of the enterprise. However, like so lots of you guys, an enormous problem for me is discovering sufficient hours within the day to do every part that I need to do. So, I need to get very disciplined about blocking my time all through the week to be extra centered and environment friendly with my time, in order that I can open up house for all of the various things I need to work on.
Have Extra Enjoyable With My Children
For 3 years in a row, considered one of my New 12 months’s intentions has been to “have extra enjoyable.” (Sure, I do know that claims one thing about me, lol.) I are inclined to get very centered on the duty at hand, which may lead me to be a little bit too critical at instances.
A significant worth for me is creating extra enjoyable experiences and reminiscences with our household. My children are eight and ten, and these are the most enjoyable ages—I don’t need to miss a single minute of it. Over the subsequent a number of months, I need to be so intentional about being extra spontaneous and doing enjoyable issues collectively. Climbing, street journeys, making artwork collectively, going to new eating places—all these easy issues that assist us get away of the rut of our day-to-day schedule.
Carve Out a Profession That’s All My Personal
One factor I’m studying: the older you get, the much less you care about what others consider you. (Thank goodness!) As I shut out my 30s, I need to wholeheartedly embrace the elements of my profession that really feel genuine to me, and that deliver me probably the most pleasure.
One of many difficult issues about being a content material creator is that, due to social media, it may be tempting to do issues simply because everybody else is, or as a result of an algorithm prioritizes sure forms of content material. And though these methods may be rewarded within the short-term, my precedence is to completely present up with my entire coronary heart, creating content material that serves you guys and that I’m authentically excited to share as a result of I consider it’s really significant.
Perceive and Align With My Cycle
Should you’re not but acquainted with the idea of cycle syncing, this may appear random, however let me clarify. The overall thought is: as an alternative of doing the identical issues all through the month, you tailor your behaviors to the present section of your menstrual cycle. Cycle syncing may apply to how you’re employed out, the meals you eat at totally different instances of the month, or how you intend your workday.
This matter is prime of thoughts for me proper now, as a result of I’m having a interval for the primary time in years. Between having infants, breastfeeding, and being on contraception, I haven’t had a daily cycle in over a decade. So now that it’s again, I’m excited to dig extra into this matter and take note of how my hormones are affecting my vitality, my productiveness, psychological readability.
Okay, let’s get this social gathering began! Don’t miss my Youtube episode the place we chat about all of them, and I’ll do my greatest to share updates all year long on how every of those goes.